I could help you design and build an IB sub where you vent the rear pressure waves from your basement into the room above the theater and thus keep the bass in your own townhouse. It would be no more loud than a regular sub to your immediate neighbor and from a distance the bass from front and back would partially cancel each other out and be quieter than a traditional sub.
What people often miss is that with IB subs, the sound propagated out of the building is a combination of the front wave and the rear wave, at relatively equal SPLs, thus they cancel each other out and make the community bass noise much quieter than with a box sub. So, if you are generating a loud 100dB plus boom in your theater with either type of sub, the IB sub will actually be quieter to the neighbors.
What people often miss is that with IB subs, the sound propagated out of the building is a combination of the front wave and the rear wave, at relatively equal SPLs, thus they cancel each other out and make the community bass noise much quieter than with a box sub. So, if you are generating a loud 100dB plus boom in your theater with either type of sub, the IB sub will actually be quieter to the neighbors.